We need not have another ceremony or any ceremony to look at the vows that we have made when asking to be together for the rest of our lives.
A standard vow goes something like this:
To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part.
Are we keeping your vows? How often do we cherish each other? How often do we hold each other? Implied within the word hold is support.
What does a woman need, a man need? Each person has their own specific needs that they can share with their partner. For a relationship that grows year after year both partners will be responding to their partner’s needs. Both contributing to the bank account of LOVE.
What do you contribute to the bank account of Love in your relationship? Is this what your partner needs? Have you asked what they would like to top up the account? Have you asked for what would top up your account?
Generalizations might be:
Companionship (activities together, esp recreational)
Attraction to Spouse
Honesty and Openness
Ask your partner what is important to them and how that can be fulfilled.